By Akasha Kali 05/04/2026
I rebuke the notion. that black women embracing their natural selves is "radical".
It only becomes that in an inverted world. Imagine the original creator being convinced that expressing her innate essence is “radical”. When women sensationalize their well being it keeps them stuck in a perpetual cycle of “healing” without real results and continues to feed the Chitlin Circuit showcase of how much suffering they’re willing to embody and/or tolerate to be seen.
I’ve been moving to my own rhythm since I was young and was always able to recognize how uneasy some individuals feel in my presence. Most of the time it’s the usual suspects, but sometimes it’s skin folk too. I truly value community and sisterhood, but one of the reasons why my sister circles are as tight and unsusceptible to the bs is because I’ve accepted that everyone who appears to look like or share the same value as me ain’t necessarily kin.
The “3C “(colonial, capital, corporate culture) as I like to call it, work in tandem as the well oiled machine it was created to be-Pillage, extract, and package up for sale. Black Trauma is big business for 3C stakeholders invested in carbon people as an energy source- especially cosmic women. I’ve witnessed this in personal battles of releasing trauma and the uproar it caused in family members complacent, and cozy in their dysfunction. I’ve witnessed it professionally working in New York public schools--where educators and staff members prioritized the education, wellbeing, and accessibility for students based on favoritism and PTA cliques as opposed to objective, unbiased inclusivity; and birthwork, one of the oldest ”Girls girl” trade of all trades is flooded with madams and handmaidens of patriarchy. Not sure why I was so surprised to learn certain groups of black women were capitalizing off of wounding/wounded black wombs when melanated women of all backgrounds have been collectively carrying deep mother/sister wounds for centuries-its also textbook typical
Or perhaps even eons…
A few years ago, when I was operating my business under a different name, I started following this particular woman’s jewelry business on Instagram with the intention of buying in the future. She was a metalsmith and water spirit devotee (I won’t say which one). She made beautiful pieces inspired by West African brass jewelry traditions. Ironically, both of our business names were inspired by the Black Madonna. One day I noticed she was plagiarizing my posts. The first time I brushed it off as a coincidence but after the third time, I called her out on it. Of course, like the coward she was took no accountability and blocked me. It was odd to me though, why a talented woman with a more established business would try to copy off of someone in their humble beginnings. She clearly wasn’t lacking in anything besides integrity- the creativity was there, so were the marketing skills. She appeared to be confident, and her business seemed to be doing well. So why was a skilled, thriving market woman who claimed to be aligned with a wealthy primordial water spirit engaging in “broke bitch” behavior?
I received some insight that night. I dreamt of sitting in a temple devoted to the great mother with several other priestesses, when suddenly the temple was ambushed by an army of black women decked out in gemstone encrusted gold armor. My priestess sisters and I were strapped too though-and it was a showdown Marvel movie worthy. The heavens shook as we rumbled in that temple galvanizing to protect sacred objects that our opposition was trying to both steal and destroy. I’m not sure whether it was an ancient memory or an elaborate representation of psychic warfare being projected towards me, but I definitely know it was triggered by me putting that woman’s plagiarism on blast.
I think for several reasons including spiritual amnesia and the socially engineered separation of family /community which so many black women crave; there may be some difficulty understanding and /or accepting that not all black women are our allies. Feminine energy is a spectrum- and within that exists more malevolent expressions which do not always stem from a place of wounding but simply choosing to be a mean girl. because a sadistic sense of pleasure or power is derived from it.
If women took the time to examine this truth I think they would be less devastated by failed Sistren partnerships-and refrain from always trying to justify another woman’s vile behavior as coming from a history of her “being hurt” -though that is the case in many circumstances, in some cases the envy, betrayal, theft, or sabotage stem from a place of entitlement-from her feeling like she is /or at least should be considered superior to you based off looks, education, intelligence, or social status; and to prove it to herself, she is more than happy to engage in competition with you from afar or up close and personal, whether you’re aware this competition exists or not.
Sisterhood is essential to our well being so there should be no guilt in desiring female companionship-but as we evolve, women are remembering the importance of boundary setting and vetting within all relationships, and that is something I love for us. Women of higher spiritual caliber don’t benefit from trauma bonding nor profiting off collective disenfranchisement anyway- it’s not sustainable and doesn’t hold the type of longevity we value. In healthy matriarchal structures/dynamics, the addressing and sharing of pain has always been for the purpose of transmutation, lessons and cautionary tales. So that the quality of our lives, our progeny, loved ones, and apprentices can continue to upgrade with each generation and every purge. We have no horses in the race of victimhood, man hating, motherhood regret and “no new friends” We have a different bottom line.
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